“This is the story of the Alma Mater (Nourishing Mother) of the movement to stop doctors worldwide from committing atrocities, which harm their patients for life.” —George C. Denniston, MD, MPH, co-editor of NOCIRC's eight books of presentations from the International Symposia on Genital Autonomy and Children's Rights, co-editor of Say No to Circumcision!: 40 Compelling Reasons, and the founder of Doctors Opposing Circumcision
PLEASE DON’T CUT THE BABY!
a nurse’s memoir
By Marilyn Fayre Milos with Judy Kirkwood
Publication Date: February 20, 2024
Marilyn Milos was a nursing student on the obstetrical unit in 1979 when she first witnessed a baby being circumcised. The only person to step forward to comfort the infant as it writhed and screamed in pain during the surgery, she was shocked when the doctor said to her: “There is no medical reason for doing this.”
This timely book, appearing as it does amid growing bioethical and human rights concerns over non-therapeutic infant male circumcision and genital mutilation in general, is a must-read.
Human rights activist Marilyn Milos has written a warm and compelling memoir of her path to becoming “the founding mother of the intactivist movement.” Please Don’t Cut the Baby! chronicles her journey from an abusive childhood to finding her voice as a social activist participating in the cultural revolutions of the 1960s and 1970s to working as a registered nurse in a small regional hospital, performing her ethical duty to educate parents about what circumcision is before they signed the hospital’s “informed” consent paperwork. Her outrage at the health fallacies promoted by the medical establishment about circumcision, and her compassion for the trauma inflicted on babies (thought to be impervious to pain at that time) led her to become the leading force in questioning the ethics of circumcision and fighting for the rights of infants and children to bodily integrity and genital autonomy.
What started as an effort to become a certified nurse midwife promoting natural childbirth turned into a more than 40-year quest to end the practice of medically unnecessary routine circumcision. Amputating the foreskins of baby boys as a matter of practice is a uniquely American cultural custom and, it turns out, driven by cosmetic expectations. This surgery is not widely practiced in the UK, Europe, Asia, South America, and Mexico. Milos sought to educate not only the public but the medical and health fields about the benefits of the foreskin, which every male mammal is born with, but which only humans, primarily Americans, cut off (even when there are no religious traditions to consider). To this end, Milos established the largest clearinghouse of information on circumcision in the 1980s and coordinated 15 international symposia on ending circumcision and promoting genital autonomy. She now serves on the board of Intact America, the leading intactivist organization, which she co-founded.
Genre/category: Social Activist Memoir/Medical/Human Rights
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“Marilyn Milos’s Please Don't Cut the Baby! A Nurse's Memoir is a timely book, appearing as it does amid growing bioethical and human rights concerns over non-therapeutic infant male circumcision and genital mutilation in general. Knowing, as we do today, that children, even before birth, are sentient, conscious, and remembering beings, the trauma inflicted upon them by such surgical interventions represents a life-long wounding on their bodies and psyches that will adversely affect them. Prevention trumps treatment. Future parents need to read this fine book.”—Thomas R Verny, MD, DPsych, DHL (Hon), FRCP(C), FAPA, author of The Secret Life of the Unborn Child, The Embodied Mind
“In 1980, Ed Wallerstein dedicated his book, Circumcision: An American Health Fallacy, to ‘healthcare providers who have already disavowed the necessity of routine newborn circumcision.’ After advocating against medically unnecessary circumcision for decades, Marilyn Milos epitomizes the enlightened healthcare providers my father's book was dedicated to. Had he lived to see the publication of Please Don't Cut The Baby! A Nurse's Memoir, my father would have whole-heartedly endorsed Marilyn's new book.”—Les Wallerstein, JD, M.Psych
“Male and female circumcision is a crime, and to be more precise, it is the greatest crime committed by humanity against its weakest members. Knowing Marilyn Milos and her courage and persistence in tackling this crime, I would like to encourage everyone to read her book. I hope it will soon be translated into all languages so that this crime finally stops.”—Sami Aldeeb Abu-Sahlieh, Doctor of Law, Centre de Droit Arabe et Musulman, author of Male & Female Circumcision Among Jews, Christians and Muslims: Religious Medical, Social, and Legal Debate
“When Marilyn Milos recruited me to join a team of doctors fighting infant circumcision at a conference in San Francisco in 1996, I had no idea what I was getting into. She helped reshape my career in wellness through activism. Over a quarter of a century later, as I delight in her long-awaited memoir, I marvel at her abilities to inspire generations of men and women to take up the cause of genital justice. It's my fervent hope that it will inspire future generations to complete this work, even if they never are as lucky as I am to experience this force of nature firsthand.”—John Travis, MD., MPH, Alliance for Transforming the Lives of Children (aTLC)
“The first dictum of ethical medical practice is 'Primum Non Nocere' (First Do No Harm). In contrast, much of the medical profession in the United States and other English-speaking countries has deliberately and knowingly violated this fundamental tenet of ethical medical conduct, by subjecting defenseless children to cruel and harmful circumcisions that can result in traumatic, lifelong psycho-sexual harm. This book about the tragedy of infant male circumcision illustrates the author's enormous courage, and that of other ethicists throughout the world, in tackling head-on this useless and harmful non-therapeutic sexual reduction surgery imposed on many non-consenting and defenseless minors, including normal, healthy baby boys.”—Gregory J. Boyle, PhD, DSc, FAPS